Guide
Why testing for STIs is sexual self care
Getting tested is sexual self-care. Here’s exactly what to expect, what tests to ask for, and how to find providers who won’t make you feel awkward about your sex life.
Need to knows
- Most STIs have no symptoms– regular testing is the only way to know your status
- You can ask for specific tests– don’t just accept “the standard panel”
- Self-collected swabs are availablefor most tests when you don’t have symptoms
- Testing frequency depends on your situation– annual is good, but you might need more frequent testing
- You deserve judgment-free care– if a provider makes you uncomfortable, find another one
Step-by-step
Before your appointment
Choose your provider wisely
- Look for LGBTQ+-friendly clinics or sexual health centers
- Ask friends for recommendations (yes, really – we all do this)
- Check if they offer self-collected swabs if you prefer that option
Know what to ask for
- Chlamydia and gonorrhea (urine or swab – covers genitals, throat, and anus)
- Syphilis (blood test)
- Hepatitis A (if you enjoy anal play)
- Hepatitis C (if you’ve shared needles or have other risk factors)
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During your appointment
Speak up about your needs
- Tell them what sexual activities you engage in (oral, anal, vaginal)
- Ask for tests at all relevant sites (throat, genital, anal)
- Request self-collected swabs if available and you prefer them
What to expect
- Blood tests: Quick needle stick, usually from your arm
- Urine tests: First part of your pee stream (don’t pee beforehand)
- Swabs: Can be done by the provider or yourself – they’re not as uncomfortable as you might think
After your appointment
Getting results
- Most places will call or text with results within a week
- “No news is good news” is NOT good enough – always ask for your actual results
- Get copies for your own records
If everything’s clear
- Plan your next testing schedule
- Consider if you need more frequent testing based on your situation
If something comes back positive
- Take a breath – most STIs are easily treatable
- Follow treatment instructions completely (finish all antibiotics)
- Wait the recommended time before having sex again
- Partner notification is important for everyone’s health
Hot tips
Bring a list on your phone
Write down what tests you want beforehand. It’s easy to forget when you’re nervous or the appointment feels rushed.
Don’t skip throat and anal swabs
Many STIs can be in these areas without symptoms. If you engage in oral or anal contact, get tested there too. Most providers won’t offer this automatically – you have to ask.
Self-collected swabs are a game-changer
If your clinic offers them, they’re just as accurate as provider-collected ones and way more comfortable. You literally just swab yourself in private.
